Four Keys to Manifesting Your Purpose

Four KeysFocus, Hard Work, Believing & Grace

Pick one and start there; to get anything done successfully you will need to engage them all!

I started with grace. Grace has been defined as unmerited favor; goodness or gifts that are bestowed upon us that we have no reason to expect.

The challenge lies not in the lack of grace in our lives but lies in our inability to recognize and acknowledge it.  Acts of grace are abundant and are all around us. Here are a few gifts of grace that you may have lost sight of;

It is by God’s grace that:

  • We can ponder the idea of a life of greater purpose.
  • We desire right and not wrong.
  • We have this day, this moment, right now!

There are many, many people who work really hard to make great things happen but when you can walk in a spirit that is conscious of the grace factor, aware that even if you fall short, grace can not only make its way in and carry you over but it can bring you to the door of divine possibilities!

Make a list of moments of grace in your day to day life, while also making note of those moments when your reward far exceeded your expectations.  Make it a practice to acknowledge these moments.  This habit will humble your heart and make you more worthy than you will ever realize.

Focus-

.. that ability to center our minds on the manifestation of one thing. Some of us are blessed with many gifts and it becomes difficult to choose what to solely commit ourselves to.  But know that if you are truly in line with your gift, no matter what you do, you will always return to it in some way.

Look for this!

Look for whatever that thing is that consistently appears in your life, that thing that you are always being told you’re good at. When people tell you you’re in the wrong business, what are they referring to?  Yeah, that!

Work to begin to narrow your energy and effort to this thing.  When you’re in line with your gift, focusing on it will be something you look forward to and you do gladly!   You just need to create a system that allows you to focus on it consistently and effectively.

Begin with these steps:

  1. Create your plan of action. It should have a small and doable end goal, one with easy action steps that will be easy to commit to. Once you’ve completed it, you will be more encouraged and have the confidence to move forward to something bigger and get even closer to where you’re headed.
  2. Decide when you have uninterrupted time to devote consistently to manifesting your plan of action. The important thing here is consistency; stopping and starting won’t get you there!
  3. Write it down. Keep a journal and pen ready for expected and unexpected ideas and inspiration.
  4. Stay organized.
  5. Find reliable support & resources.

Hard Work-

I think the concept of hard work is relative. On the outside, it may look like you are making tremendous sacrifices, laboring hours upon hours and YOU ARE. But what’s happening inside, is a spirit of excitement, eagerness and purpose!  You love it and in fact you lose all track of time.

Don’t be disillusioned, there will be times when you will want to stop, give up or question whether or not you’re on the right course.  These moments are the hardest.  These are the times when what you believe for yourself will either pick up and move you forward or have you to pack it up and call it a day…more on this later.

So, how do you ensure that your hard work is effective and that you’re not just running around chasing your tail?!

One of the most important keys to making sure your hard work pays off is a well thought out plan. The last thing you want to do is to jump out there and wing it. You will waste a lot of time and energy and open the door to failure and doubt. Know exactly what you’re going to do every time.  When you take the time to plan your hard work effectively, it will always yield good fruit, even if it’s not what you expected.

Five major components of a well thought out plan include:

  1. Goals- Long & Short Term
  2. Doable & Realistic Action Steps
  3. Reasonable Timetables
  4. Reliable Resources & Support Sources
  5. An Dependable Accountability System

Note the use of the words, doable, realistic, reasonable, reliable and dependable.  Don’t get so carried away with getting it done that you sabotage your efforts with unrealistic ideas and expectations.

Belief-

This is where the magic is!  Your belief is what will sustain you when times get tough. Believing has the power to move barriers and can cause the universe to lean in your favor!

Believing in yourself is that part of your Spirit that speaks to what your true purpose is.  Either we listen to it and have the courage to act on it or we close our minds to it because we have yet to recognize and accept our God given potential, our gift!

Your belief system is nurtured and fortified every time you get it right!  When you are in line with your gift, you will begin to experience successes. They may be small at first, but that’s ok, that’s all you need for now.  These successes will validate that you are indeed on the right track.

They may not appear as you expect so be prepared to accepted them however they come.

So, I guess your question now is, what if I’m not getting it right? Suppose I’m not having any success at all?

My answer is to give it some time, only you will know how much.  If your allotted time has passed with no validation or confirmation that you’re headed the right way, slow down or stop all together. Review all that you have done. Reconsider your purpose and intention. Be sure that what you’re setting out to do has a broad and generous purpose and that your intentions are not purely self-serving.Take the best of what you’ve done and learned and redesign/revise your strategy and  your vision and start again.

Time For Prayer & Gratitude:

Thank You for renewing my spirit of hope and encouragement. Sometimes I get tired and it gets hard to stay on the path. These words of direction have strengthen me and I’m ready to go a little farther. Allow me to also be a source of encouragement to someone else along my way.

Amen.

Here’s What We’re Believing for August!

Newsletter Logo -AugThe month of August has been a series of prayerful conclusions and revelations. Just in cased you missed them, here are my prayerful and practical posts for August!

My Little Sacred Secrets for Staying Divinely Guided!– I was talking with a young beautiful woman so full of energy and passion to make change in the world that she could hardly contain herself!

There was so much that she wanted to do and she felt like she had finally decided how she would go about it!

But somehow, she was still a little unsure about the direction she was taking. So I shared with her how I ensured that my decisions, especially major decisions are divinely guided!

Stop Getting Stuck in the Hurt! – We have all had our fair share of hurtful moments; moments of fear, loss, disappointment, heartbreak etc.

Sometimes these moments are small and pass quickly but sometimes they don’t; sometimes we get stuck in the hurt!

I’ve been stuck in the hurt a few times.

Like the time when….

A Lily in the Valley-The End As most of you know, over the past couple of months, I have been sharing with you the time in my life when I live with domestic violence.

I want to thank all of you for reading along and supporting me throughout this very emotional but empowering process.

I’m finally bringing my story to a prayerful end!

DV Awareness Month

During the month of October, I will be hosting A Lily in the Valley- “The Conversation”; where I invite all of you to have a conversation with me about not only the impact of domestic violence but the impact of any great pain, loss or disappointment on our lives and how these experiences can hold us back from being our greater selves. I will discuss and share more about my experience with domestic violence and how I not only survived but emerged clear in my purpose. I will be using my eBook A Lily in the Valley as a starting point and center of conversation.

If you would like to join us and I do hope you will!:

  • Subscribe to begintobelieve.com so you will be notified of the date and times
  • Follow me on Periscope @begintobelieve which is where I’ll be hosting- A Lily in the Valley- “The Conversation”.
  • Purchase “A Lily in the Valleyhere so that you can follow along!

National Domestic Violence Hotline-1-800-799-7233

I hope you all are having a wonderfully long an relaxing weekend!

Until next time my loves!

Stop Getting Stuck in the Hurt!

Stuck in the HurtWe have all had our fair share of hurtful moments; moments of fear, loss, disappointment, heartbreak etc.

Sometimes these moments are small and pass quickly but sometimes they don’t; sometimes we get stuck in the hurt!

I’ve been stuck in the hurt a few times.

Like the time when my first crush broke my heart because I just wasn’t his type. I spent a lot of time, wishing I had shiny, wavy hair like the girl he chose instead of me. It took me a while to get back to embracing my brown skin and kinky hair.

Like the time when I told my parents I was pregnant and they shunned me and told me what a disgrace I was. And for nine months I felt alone and ashamed, missing out on what should have been a beautiful experience.

Like when the love of my life hit me for the first time. After that, I spent the next several years lost not knowing who I was and what my life would be like from one moment to the next.

But it was through these moment and others that I realized that when we’re hurting, there are some steps we can take to help ensure that we don’t get so rooted in the pain that we lose ourselves and our place in our life journey.

So, here you go…

• Realize that despite what was probably a best effort, what’s done is done. Don’t spend too much time reliving the moment wishing it had been different. Yes, it’s only human to wonder how things could have been but the sooner you can accept things as they are the better!

• Cry! Cry hard and tell yourself that this time is the last time and hold to it!

• Spend more time around people that think you’re fucking fabulous!

• Spend less time with people who honestly think you suck!

• Even if all of it was totally your fault, it’s ok! Own up to it! Accept responsibility for all of it! It’s like taking a big dose of bad tasting medicine, it’s pretty horrible but you’ll be better for it!

• Filter out all the good shit! This may take some effort but there is some good that came out of the all mess.

• Make intentional efforts to get better. Whether you need emotional support, counseling, etc., take some practical steps to help you rise above it all.

• Solicit the advice of someone you trust to be that person to tell you where you went wrong.

• Solicit the advice of someone you trust to slap you out of it when they see you re-living it all over again!

• Watch for signs that you’re repeating some of the same things that landed you in all this hurt in the first place.

• Pray and meditate. Knowing that there is a power that is there to guide, heal and comfort you will give you hope that things can and will get better!

• Know that you’re not alone. There are tons of us who have experience that same type of hurt that you have. Reach out to them, connect and help each other!

I recently wrote a short ebook about my story of how I was stuck in the hurt; it nearly cost me my life. You can check it out here!

Getting and staying stuck in the hurt will steal your joy, rob you of your potential and deceive you into thinking that your life won’t ever be any different than it is at that moment!

The bottom line my loves is… FIGHT!  Fight every way you know how to free yourself!

There is so much for you to do; so much goodness and happiness to be had…Go Get It!

A Lily in the Valley- The End

As most of you know, over the past couple of months, I have been sharing with you the time in my life when I live with domestic violence.

I want to thank all of you for reading along and supporting me throughout this very emotional but empowering process.

I’m finally bringing my story to an end!

And I want it to serve as a example of how your life can feel completely hopeless at one point but then serve as a divine example of deliverance and purpose at another!

I am so grateful!

If you like, you can purchase the complete story here or at the link below!

All of God’s Blessings to You!

Robin-

A Lily in the Valley- My True Story of Domestic Abuse, Deliverance & Purpose!

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A Lily in the Valley- The End!

After I had filed the restraining order, I waited.

Every day I waited for the police to come and serve him.  But every day when I got in from work, he was still there!

I guess he felt regretful for all things he had done because he tried desperately to do all the right things now.

But it was too late.  T here was nothing he could do now to fix things.

Nothing!

When the day arrived to go to court, he tried to make me promises that things would better.   He begged me to not go through with it.   He even asked me to marry him.

I just ignored him.

But I did ask him why he didn’t leave after he was served the restraining order.  He said that the police said that he just had to watch him leave and so he left and simply came back.

When we entered the courtroom, he tried to sit next to me but the officer told him he had to sit on the other side of the room.

That felt good!

We were called up before the judge, each of us at our respective table.

I told the judge about the night he put the phone cord around my neck and about the years of domestic violence that I had experienced with him over the years.

It all happened pretty quickly.

The judge was no nonsense and to the point. He had 48 hours to remove himself and all of his belongings from the house.

And just like that, 10 years of fighting, fear and tears had ended!

Before I knew it I was back home.

The kids were at Mama’s.

I don’t think I had ever heard the house so quiet.

I went over to the window and at that time I couldn’t   afford curtains or blinds so I used white sheets for curtains.

And there on the floor was my old faithful tape player and inside was my only tape, “Lily in the Valley!”

I pressed play and drew open the curtains.

As the song played, the sun flooded over me and through the house as if to wash away all the pain and hurt that used to live there.

I cried and cried but this time because I was overjoyed.

I was free!

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By no means do I want to minimize all the events that occurred during this time.

For example, I didn’t mention how this life affected my ability to manage a healthy relationship.

I didn’t mention the long term affects it had on my son.

I made no mention of the nightmares or

how it fed my own aggression and insecurities.

I didn’t mention the affect it had on my mental and physical health.

I didn’t mention its affect on my ability to trust in people.

I didn’t mention its affect on my ability to make sound decisions.

I didn’t mention the impact it had on my family’s faith in me.

And I didn’t mention how it affected my ability to forgive.

This is list could go on indefinitely.

Suffice it to say, these years were long, hard and dangerous. And even today, I can sometimes see the residue of this experience appear and fade.

And it is important to note that I would not and do not recommend that anyone take the steps I took under these circumstances because I failed at what was most important.

I failed to protect myself and my children at the first sign of danger.

But I thank God!

I thank God that He kept me and my children despite my weaknesses and fears.

I thank God that I found my faith which continues to sustain me.

I thank God that I now know that hope combined with a plan and prayers are the tools for positive change.

I thank God that real strength does not lie in fists but in the undying determination to make life better for the ones you love.

And I thank God that true love/real love, heals.

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I am so grateful to be able to share this part of my life in this way in hopes that it serves as a small light on the path of those who need it.

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Here’s What We’re Believing for July!

Newsletter Logo (3)Hi My Loves,

The month of July was full of change and re-focus. I hope these posts provide some light for you and your journey!

When the Heart, Mind and Spirit Can Agree, Failure is Almost Impossible!– There is no fool-proof way to avoid failure completely but I’ve learned how to minimize the impact and likelihood of it!  So, it used to be that when I thought I had a great idea or goal, my mind would get overwhelmed with trying to figure out…

A Lily in the Valley – Chapter 14-Daddy Had Something to Say – It was the next morning.  He had already left for work I guess. We had been sleeping in separate rooms for months.  I stayed in bed for awhile thinking over everything that had happened the night before.

How to Know When to Redirect Your Focus-As most of you know, I am writing  my first major ebook…Yay ! I am using a course I purchased called BookBoss-an ebook writing course created by Abby & Donnie Lawson…

Lord, Lord…Prayers to Pray When Everything’s a Mess!  Hi My Loves; So, a few weeks ago, I started working out and basically recommitting myself to feeling better. And I remembered that I wrote a prayer about Health in my prayer book…

My Little Sacred Secrets for Staying Divinely Guided

I was talking with a young beautiful woman so full of energy and passion to make change in the world that she could hardly contain herself!

There was so much that she wanted to do and she felt like she had finally decided how she would go about it!

But somehow, she was still a little unsure about the direction she was taking. So I shared with her how I ensured that my decisions, especially major decisions are divinely guided.

When you discover that you are one of those people called to go into the world to make a difference, it can be an overwhelming and lonely process.

The moments of doubt and frustration can seem to cloud your path at every turn. And out the need to feel satisfied, you try to convince yourself that there is no need to put yourself out there any further.

But you know deep in your heart that this only the deceitful comfort of “good enough”. So you gather your spirit and courage and press on.

So, I went on to share with her some of my little sacred secrets for staying divinely guided…knowing that every step and every moment has purpose for me.

  1. I ASK for divine guidance everyday
  2. I have regular moments of silence & stillness.
  3. I embrace times of inconvenience and frustration
  4. I am conscious of fret and worry and I pray that they past me quickly
  5. I look for lessons to learn whenever I’m sick or when things don’t appear to be going my way.
  6. In times of anger and resentment, I remind myself that I am being tested.
  7. And being afraid or anxious is almost always a definite sign that I’m on the right track!
  8. Accepting that if it hasn’t happen yet, its because I’m not ready-there’s still work to be done.
  9. I help and encourage people long the way.

These are just 9 of my little sacred secrets that help to reassure me that I’m on the right path.

When you can stay in tuned with these practices, you will avoid the doubt and isolation that comes with feeling lost, stuck or frantic.  They will help to minimize indecisiveness and build your confidence and self esteem.

And you will find yourself more in line with where you think you should be in your journey!

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Lord, Lord…Prayers to Pray When Everything’s a Mess!

Hi My Loves;

So, a few weeks ago, I started working out and basically recommitting myself to feeling better. And I remembered that I wrote a prayer about Health in my prayer book Lord, Lord…Prayers to Pray When Everything’s a Mess! and I re-read it today.  And it to me is so powerful and to the point and really reigns in all of the challenges we face when we want to do better for our physical selves.

I don’t face a lot of the challenges I pray about here. But I wanted to touch on as much as I could at the time and through God I was able to put together the words, creating a wholehearted and Spirit based plea for help from the Divine in overcoming the things that hinder us all from becoming our better selves.

I hope it serves you well!

Health

Father God, I’m so grateful for every breath. Thank you for this; but Lord, Lord… I want to feel better!

My lack of exercise, green food, water and other right things has taken a toll.

Lord, I want to be free from pills, pain and prescriptions; free from doctors and nurses limited in spirit and understanding.

I want to be able wake up in the morning limber, clear of mind; no longer bound by restless nights.

I want to breathe full breaths without the help of artificial apparatuses; to walk and run unassisted and unencumbered. I want my heart, brain, blood, organs and arteries to function in Your Divine perfection, absent of the residue of bad habits and generational weakness.

Lord, help me to use my common sense in making these things so;

To eat, drink and care for my body and mind as You would have me to, removing any desires and weaknesses that may tempt me to do otherwise. To be reminded that french fries, chocolate and things of this nature are only good in moderation and in some cases not at all.

I no longer want to use cigarettes, drugs and alcohol as healing and pacifying elixirs.

Remove me from the presence of bad company, those who perpetuate my bad decisions, pretending to be friends but instead are only victims themselves of the adage, “misery loves company.”

Lord, help me to become worthy of this energy and I promise to do good with it. I promise to learn from my mistakes and limitations and to use this knowledge and energy for the betterment of someone else.

And I come to you on behalf of those who truly suffer; those no longer able to reach out to You in prayer in this way; those whose bodies and minds have succumbed to dis-ease, trauma, mis-use and abuse… Lord, have mercy.

Comfort them in knowing that even in this state, God is still God.

Lord, I pray that You bless and keep us all in Spirit, truth, grace, mercy, righteousness and perfect health in Your name,

Amen.

Lord, Lord…! Prayers to Pray When Everything’s a Mess!

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